I used to think that a scenario like this only happens in movies or cheesy soap operas, but ever since my two best friends got into their own you-betrayed-me and why-can’t-you-just-be-happy-for-me kind of war, with me torn in the middle, I couldn’t help but think that we’re living in our version of a teenybopper TV series. lol

Hiram Part Two

Yes, I know we’re no longer teens, but this war actually started over four years ago. We were the inseparable trio, we even called ourselves the Charmed sisters (which was a hit back then). They’re the best friends anyone could ask for. We always did stuff together like playing Volleyball or teaching in Sunday School or shopping (well, they loved shopping, I just didn’t want to be stuck at home :D) or going on a vacation by ourselves — It was really fun! But that was until the day one of my best friends (let’s call her Anne Curtis) broke up with her long-time boyfriend (let’s call him Geoff Eigenmann) and found out later that her Ex and our other best friend (let’s call her Heart Evangelista) have been sort of “seeing each other” for the last few months, even before the breakup. That drove Anne up the wall because one, she was still in love with her Ex at that time, and two, she was hurt because she felt her own best friend betrayed her. Heart defended herself by saying that there was nothing going on, they were just friends. I think that’s true for the earlier part, but they still ended up together anyway.

Me? I was stuck in the middle. I didn’t want to choose a side since I wanted to be the understanding, objective kind of friend (hah!) but because I’m not perfect and I also have my own opinion about what happened I sort of leaned toward the other which consequently led the other one to think that I too betrayed her by siding with the other one (Are you with me?). I tell ya, it was one helluva drama.

We tried fixing the problem so many times but it was just so hard to do. Whenever I was with Heart, Anne would get jealous. And whenever I was with Anne, Heart would get paranoid. Now it’s four years later, Anne is together with her childhood sweetheart (Let’s call him Oyo Boy Sotto. They have a beautiful love story, you should hear about it. :D ) for almost 3 years now, Heart and Geoff are going on their 4th year together, and I — I’ve moved out of home 3 years ago (but not to escape all the “fun” with my best friends, I swear) and have spent lesser time with both of them.. You would think that we’ve all moved on, but no. The past still finds a way to haunt me.

After months of not seeing each other, Heart and I had a time to catch up on things again two days ago. There were many significant and trivial things to talk about so I made sure I steered clear of any topics related to our barkada’s “lost friendship”. And yet, it seemed that topic would just never go undiscussed. Heart still feels frustrated in trying to patch things up with Anne (after all these years!), and Anne, who I text with from time to time, is firm with the fact that she doesn’t mind if she’s one friend less.

And me? I’m waiting for time to pass. I know it’s only a matter of time before both of them will give our lost friendship another chance. That would be the day when all of us are mature enough to leave the past behind and accept each other’s shortcomings. I long for that day. Who knows? Maybe we can all hang out together with Geoff and Oyo Boy in one room! Haha

We used to say that if we three had children of our own someday, we also want them to be friends. I’m still looking forward to that. :)

The Moral of the Story

Think twice before going for your best friend’s Ex. You’ll never know how hard the blow (and how long the recovery period) is until your best friend starts to snub you and send cuss words your way (lol). But if you’re the best friend who was cheated on, let it go and just be happy for your best friend. It’s been years. What she did to you only meant that you were supposed to be with someone else who’s gonna love you more than your Ex ever did.

Easier said than done? Yeah, that’s what I said too. :P

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